What if I can’t forgive?

 

What if I can’t forgive?

Jesus said, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:14-15 NIV)

What if we struggle to forgive others?

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Building a Pastoral Library after Seminary

What books should a recent seminary graduate add to their library?

I’ve had a candidate for ministry who’ll soon be graduating ask for book recommendations.  I offer the following.  It’s not a list of everything a pastor should have in his library, but some suggestions of directions to strike out in when you get past having required reading for classes.

A few thoughts before the books:

  • Building a library and reading are different things.  Don’t feel like you have to read everything, you’re not displaying a collection of things you’ve read, you’re collecting tools to have ready.  Having texts on hand is invaluable to quickly check something, scan to see if you’d recommend it to a church member, or dig in if the whim strikes you.  You can’t read something if you don’t have it.  Also, stacks of unread books are a good way to remember how much you don’t know.
  • One of the the benefits to classes is having someone lead you to resources you might not find otherwise.  Looking online for recommended lists, checking the footnotes of favorite authors, and continuing to look for recommendations is a great way to find resources.  Amazon recommendations are going to recommend things a lot like what you already have purchased or like – this isn’t helpful to broaden your reading.

Now for some recommendations.  Assuming one has basic texts from seminary classes I would work on adding these to my shelves:

Bible:

Theology

also, working through Sherman Isbell’s Course in Readings in Reformed Systematic Theology has been helpful.  Slowly adding the sets from Owen, Warfield, and others will be a good investment.  These can be found used or at good deals.

Commentaries

Overall, I found full sets of commentaries a bad investment, the quality in the series is too variable.  I would suggest getting an inexpensive set just so you have the whole Bible covered then invest in commentaries as you preach.  One of the benefits of preaching lectio continua is that as I begin preaching through a new book of the Bible I purchase several of the best available commentaries.  Usually there is something recently published worth adding to classic, standards.  Get the following two survey books and used them along with BestCommentaries.com to guide your purchases.  I have found getting along with a good exegetical guide, working with a good technical commentary and a good pastoral/application commentary to be most helpful.  I’ve also found it helpful to get commentaries from other perspectives and traditions: Eastern Orthodox, Jewish, Historical etc…  Get recommended commentaries and use what you can but realize you might only be reaching for some when there’s a difficult interpretation and you need more scholars to weigh in.

Preaching

Prayer

Pastoring and Leadership

What recommendations would you add?

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The Come Back Effect by Jason Young and Jonathan Malm

Image result for come back effectThe Come Back Effect by Jason Young and Jonathan Malm is a guide to hospitality primarily for churches, but certainly relevant for businesses as well. In 10 chapters the authors review ways organizations can show a level of service and welcome that goes beyond expectations. “Empathy” would summarize the core of what makes a positive impression. Thinking through things from the perspective of a visitor rather than merely considering the tasks that need to be covered is the basis for most of their points. Although there was some questionable scriptural interpretation (c.f. p. 62 regarding divisions in the church at Corinth), I found the basic concepts solid. The authors are definitely writing from a mega-Church context so pastors of smaller congregations will need to adapt some of the examples, but this is a book I’ll be passing on to several of our leaders and plan on using it in training our greeting team.

Disclosure: I received this book free from Baker Books through the Baker Books Bloggers www.bakerbooks.com/bakerbooksbloggers program. The opinions I have expressed are my own, and I was not required to write a positive review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html.

Fervent Love

Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. (Romans 12:11–13 ESV)

We do all of this: showing love, doing deeds of love, feeling the affection of love with endurance and zeal, being fervent in spirit. Now, this zeal doesn’t mean we are just really excitable. Don’t think of three shots of espresso. This isn’t “I’m really enthusiastic”, it means an ongoing endurance. You’re persevering. You’re not getting lazy in this work. It’s easy to begin anything with enthusiasm including the spiritual life. It is only over the course of years that zeal shows itself. It’s faithfulness over the long term that we display endurance and perseverance. Bible study groups tend to have fewer at the end than in the beginning. Service projects tend to wind up with far fewer volunteers and less enthusiasm than at the beginning. It’s so easy for us to get tired and let go, and so we are encouraged to be zealous in our spiritual service.
We’re told elsewhere in Galatians 6:9, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap if we do not give up”.
Finally, our love for others is something concrete. Paul writes, “share in the needs of the saints” (Romans 12:13), or “contribute to the needs of the saints”. That is this, love is not just saying “I’ll pray for you”, but it’s also helping one another out. It is helping in concrete ways. This is probably speaking specifically of giving financially to brothers and sisters who have needs, but, as we see any needs we ought to seek to meet them as the way we show love to one another.
We had our Presbytery meeting a few weeks ago at a Downtown Church that meets in Clayborn Temple in Memphis. It was intentionally planted as an inter-racial, inter-social class church. As the church planter, Rev. Richard Rieves, shared their story, one of the things he pointed out that I had not noticed before, was the way scripture talked about sharing and generosity. Throughout the scripture when the churches are being encouraged to give, it is usually talking about giving to the needs of one another. In other words, it’s not about giving from us to those “out there” but giving to the needs within the church. His point was not that churches shouldn’t give to those outside, he was explaining that the church assumed that there will be those with needs within its body. The Biblical assumption is that a congregation is going to be diverse. It was going to have people who had needs and people who could more than meet those needs. So rather than a church being here that’s going to go do good things for other people, it was a shared life together with those who naturally were in Christ. Within the same body, we recognize each other’s needs and share in them.
This love; this care for one another also points us outwards. So, not only are we contributing to the needs of fellow believers, or saints but, we are to show hospitality. It’s possible he’s talking about hospitality to saints, but I think he’s really talking now about those outside the church. The word for hospitality is literally the love of the stranger or the outsider. Paul is transitioning to discussing those outside the church and how we live and serve them. What he says is to “seek to show hospitality” Not simply to be hospitable if a stranger happens to come to you, but pursue it; actively seek opportunities to share your life and to welcome others in. We are to find times to build relationships and show love to others. Even as the gospel is shared, our own lives are shared with others. One of the early church leaders, Origen, commented on the need to pursue hospitality. He said, “We are not just to receive the stranger when he comes to us, but actually to inquire after, and look carefully for strangers, to pursue them and search them out everywhere, lest perchance somewhere they may sit in the streets or lie without a roof over their heads.”
We tend to think about the big things we can do to serve. But here is one thing each one of us can do is – show hospitality to the stranger. We take the love and grace we have received and pour it out to others. You could simply share a meal with someone you don’t know as well. It doesn’t have to be huge things, just a meal where you build a relationship and build opportunities to show God’s love can have profound consequences. This is especially the case in a world that is increasingly divisive and increasingly isolated from others. We keep in mind, that it’s “in light of God’s mercy”, it is faith working. We rejoice in hope. We are patient in tribulation. We are constant in prayer. In other words, we live out this love with one another, not because of our goodness but because we’re hoping for the kingdom Christ is building and in patient, prayerful reliance upon Him.

Abhor What is Evil, Hold Fast to What is Good

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. (Romans 12:9 ESV)

One of the things Paul tells us about genuine love is that it “abhors evil”. If you genuinely love someone, you will despise whatever would be against their best interest. You will hate whatever is damaging or destructive to them, including sin and it’s harmful impact.  And you will hold fast to that which is good.
This means that love shows discernment.  Genuine love is willing to look at somebody and love them and make a distinction between evil and good. It’s appropriate that Paul shows us this is what love looks like because we live in a time where many people believe that saying anyone is wrong is hateful. We’re at a point where we consider any disagreement to be offensive. But Paul reminds us that there is a distinction. You can love somebody, but recognize that something they do is evil. While loving them you can hate they self-destructive evil that they do, precisely because it harms the one you love. Because I love someone, I will hate their substance abuse that leads to their destruction. Love makes distinguishes between what is a good thing to do and what is a bad thing to do, and love promotes the good that benefits them and hates the evil that harms. If I love someone, I will hate what is not in their best interests. I will hate anything in them that keeps them separated from God.
Genuine love also holds fast to that which is good.  Just as we can deceive ourselves by saying love doesn’t contradict someone or oppose them, we can also convince ourselves that we are loving someone, even when we’re not doing good for them. We can selfishly say, “I’m doing this out of love for another person”, but keep secrets from them, not share the truth with them or act out of selfish fear or pride.
Love is shown in its attitude towards good and evil. Yet love must not be mere of words or sentiments. There was a time that I would say, “We don’t need to think about love as a feeling, we only need to think about love as what we do for others – acts of our will.”  But I’ve been corrected in this. While love is more than a feeling, shown in deeds and acts of the will, it is not less than genuine affection for others. That’s what he says here, “Love one another with brotherly affection.” (Romans 12:10) So there is a sense of I have a deep caring for somebody.  It’s not just I do good things, and however I feel about them doesn’t matter, because Paul tells us our new attitude towards one another needs to be a strong, warm affection for each other. It is not mere acts, but also how we feel.
It’s interesting the term he used. You might know that Greek has different words for different types of love.  English just uses “love” for everything so I can “love” bacon and I can “love” my wife. We use the same word for both things when we mean two different things. The word used here is storge. It is the love of a mother for her child and a child for the mother. We need to catch how radical this is, because, what he is saying is our love for fellow disciples is the love of a new family.
Brothers and sisters in Christ now need to have that affection for one another. Of course, you want to have a higher priority for those in your household. But at the same time, your love for the people sitting in the pew beside you should be well beyond just somebody that you share a hobby with. Your love for those whom you have promised to share in the spiritual formation of their children at their baptism as you’ve entered a covenant with them should be a stronger love than fraternity brothers, or fellow members of Rotary. He’s taking family affection and showing that this is the love you need to have for one another. And not just in deeds and acts, but in your attitude – in your heart and in your feelings. Do you honor your fellow disciples? Do you recognize that there are bonds there that are stronger than you share with anyone else?

 

Genuine Love

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.  Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.  Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.  Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.  Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. (Romans 12:9–13 ESV)

 
We Southerners are pretty good at indirect confrontation. Rather than coming out and saying something, we smile, use our best manners, and say one thing while meaning something else. We can say a lot of things if we have a smile and have the pretense of being polite or sweet.  One of my neighbors, one nice fall day, brought a rake over for me to borrow.   They had a smile on their face and was very polite.  It was very “neighborly” of them.  It took me awhile to catch the hint – they thought I needed to rake my yard.
 
We tend to share all our connections and all our positive feelings for somebody before we criticize them So if I someone begins by telling how much they love someone and how they’re connected, I know there’s a good chance that they’re about to tear into them or share some gossip about them.   And we’ve all experienced “bless your heart”.  If you’re not native, understand it is not always a good thing.
 
We can act or speak in a way that contrasts with our true intent or motive. We’re pretty good at that in the South. In other words, we can be pretty good hypocrites.
 
In this section from Romans on living as a Christian Paul tells us, “Let love be genuine”. It follows from remembering what God has done for us “the mercies of God”. In response, we present our bodies as a “living sacrifice” (Romans 12:1).  That is, we are now responding to the grace we have received, and we do so in a way that is not hypocritical. “Let love be genuine”. Let your love be sincere, let it be real as it’s shown to others. We need to remember this, because our understanding of love can be merely sentimental. We can talk about love in a way that is more about our feelings and affection, than the actual actions done for them. We can talk about how loving we are when there’s not a genuine sense of seeking their well being. So, Paul begins with a brief description of genuine love. Keeping us from thinking of mere emotion, Paul gives it shape, “Let love be genuine; abhor what is evil; and hold fast to that which is good.”

A Review of D.A. Carson’s, The Farewell Discourse and Final Prayer of Jesus

D. A. Carson’s “The Farewell Discourse and Final Prayer of Jesus” is as the subtitle says, “an evangelical exposition of John 14-17”. It is not a technical commentary nor light devotions, but a study of these five chapters that is deep but accessible to a popular audience.
One of the things I appreciate about this book (and Carson’s work in general) is that he will show different interpretive options, then explain why he chooses one over the others. In doing so he models how to study the Bible as well as explains a particular passage. This book has a good balance of developing theological understandings from the text as well as showing the application to believer’s lives.
In addition to personal study, I would recommend this for any preacher or Bible teacher. It would also make a good resource for adult small group studies provided the leader would prepare discussion questions.

 

Disclosure: I received this book free from Baker Books through the Baker Books Bloggers www.bakerbooks.com/bakerbooksbloggers program. The opinions I have expressed are my own, and I was not required to write a positive review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html.

A Review of R.C. Sproul’s Willing to Believe

R.C. Sproul’s Willing to Believe is an excellent overview of the history of debates over the perennial question of the role of the will in salvation, particularly focusing on discussions within Evangelicalism.  Nine chapters cover Pelagius, Augustine, Semi-Pelagians, Luther, Calvin, Arminius, Jonathan Edwards, Charles Finney, and Lewis Sperry Chafer.

The book assumes a basic understanding of Church history, though anyone should be able to follow the arguments.  A glossary of Latin terms and lists of other works for those who want to dig deeper on different theologians are helpful.

Sproul is a convinced Augustinian/Calvinist and argues that much of the modern Evangelical church has departed from her Reformation heritage, yet he fairly represents theologians with whom he disagrees.  As he writes, “When a theological controversy arises, it is wise to back for a moment and ask, “What are the concerns?”  By focusing on the concerns of both parties in a dispute, we create an atmosphere in which both sides can be fairly heard.  Both sides often discover that they share common concerns but have different ways of dealing with them or stress different areas of importance.”  Sproul shows the concerns expressed by different sides of the debate.

The fair treatment and the clear explanation of the fine nuances involved in this complicated topic make this a helpful resource for pastors, teachers, theological students, and anyone wanting to understand the issue better.

 


Disclosure: I received this book free from Baker Books through the Baker Books Bloggers www.bakerbooks.com/bakerbooksbloggers program. The opinions I have expressed are my own, and I was not required to write a positive review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html.

Information doesn’t wan’t to be free; it doesn’t even want to be information

This morning’s attempt to read some news articles and blog posts with my morning coffee has been exceedingly frustrating.  I’ve given up and will type a rant instead.

I’m still pining for the days of Google Reader, the news aggregator that did what I wanted and displayed nonintrusive ads.  I haven’t been happy with alternatives that have either have a more “magazine like” presentation, continue to add more features, or display duplicate banner ads larger than the material I want to read.  I really need little more than a list of headlines that I can look at with as little distraction as possible.

As I try to read news on a newsreader site some posts display only headlines or a portion so that you have to go to the site.  I understand the need to get visitors to your site as a means of revenue for commercial journalism, but much of what I read is put out by non-profit ministries without any external ads.

Ads, by the way, have gotten to be way out of control.  I understand the need for revenue, but it seems like there should be some sense of proportionality to the context.  If I watch a video on YouTube, a video commercial at the beginning seems appropriate.  Listening to a brief interruption on Spotify also seems to fit the context.  Reading requires some measure of concentration, and to go to a site and begin reading an article only to have my attention hijacked by a video car commercial playing in the margin tells me the site owners don’t value their content enough to let me read it.  By the time I find the video to pause it I usually conclude that the point of the site isn’t to give me information, but to present advertisements.

More and more sites I go to cover the screen with a weasel worded email signup forms.  These are particularly frustrating when they continue to show up on every visit – even if you have signed up.  And once I’m past the sign up form there are the ubiquitous social media sharing plugins that cover portions of text so that reading a page requires strategical scrolling to get around Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest logos.

Based on the current state of the internet information doesn’t want be free, it wants to be caged behind sign in forms, ill thought out design, and obnoxious advertisements.  And judging from the amount of “fake news”, assertions without arguments, and opinions presented as facts, it doesn’t want to be information.